Many throughout the world are conditioned to a life of suffering. In the western world people have been imperialized to the Christian way which sells compassion at the expense of sacrificing the self. There are also great teachers from the east such as Siddhartha Gautama, Buddha who has left his wife and children in search of a better way. The story of Buddha is that he eventually abandoned his wife and children to find the path to end the life of suffering, self-sacrificing for the greater good. And if he has had any relationship with his children and his wife, he went through much suffering to end the suffering of the world; all the physical and emotional torments that he must’ve went through. All this suggests that suffering is needed in order for evolution to take place, in order to be free from suffering. This is also suggested of Jesus. That is, to self-sacrifice, to suffer is the path to end the suffering for the world at large.
Perhaps this is why there is a trend that spans all cultures of fathers leaving the wife and the children to prepare a better life elsewhere. And there is also the trend of the fathers and the mothers who have been abused who feel tortured by the idea of becoming themselves an abusive parent and so they leave the pain of family life towards something that is perceived to be more pleasurable, or at least less painful. Meanwhile, the next generation becomes manufactured, psychologically engineered towards and conditioned to suffer. Thus, suffering is produced in the world.
In our fast-paced western world ridden with chaos, conflict, and the endless supply of stressors we find many superficial cures that like painting rusted metal, the superifical covering up, allows one the distraction, the short-lived detachment, the ephemeral relief that over time loses flavor, allure. This is why marriage counseling, the counseling in many forms, psychoanalysis, the field of psychiatry is all but sugar pills. They are just another thing to be purchased only to satiate the superficial needs and desires that one has but never addressing, never acknowledging the core, the root. Obviously, if the root cause of all suffering was exposed then there would be nothing to sell, nothing for us to desire, and nothing to strive for.
Suffering is weaved into our identities like the vague melody of a familar song, a familiar tune in a dream that everyone has had. We live to suffer but hide our natures as if shamed by the truth of that which one is. One suffers, takes something to relieve the suffering, only to later experience suffering at a greater level, a greater depth. Perhaps this is what Carl Jung meant when he said “What we resist persists.” That is, there is a longing, desires, fantasies embedded into the mind of the modern person. This longing through many thoughts; images and programs that are being constantly injected into the well of the unconscious nags and coerces the thin outer layers of the self. It is the collective unconscious on display, and if one looks carefully into the mirror without the distortions willing to solve the great conundrum which is like the boiling molten lava, seated deep within the recesses of the earth. And like the building up of the pressure that is looking for a way out then perhaps, psychologically an alternate means of escaping can be realized to vent and release the pressure for the hot mass to escape. The releasing of pressure is much like a step towards the feeling of emptiness. It is then the letting go of the identity, the tormented entity that is the summation of all experiences into the present like a collage, or a stained glass window which forms the “I.” The “ego” being that thing that is hurt. So, is it that one should operate as if to negate the ego self or is giving into that self so as to liberate that entity? Because if that entity is me and I that entity then what use is there in attempting as one does to ignore the cries?
So the observed and the observer are one and the same. But one of the two is that thing that the pain and suffering attaches to. But the one is the other and the other is the one. Perhaps we might approach this another way. There is the autonomic nervous system that is wired into every living human being. And the autonomic nervous system has 3 parts: The sympathetic, parasympathetic, and enteric. Behind all 3 parts, that is the thing that dictates to the autonomic nervous system is the hypothalamus. And the hypothalamus more or less is a pharmacy; or the prescriber of drugs, the manufacturer of drugs, and the distributor.
So let’s say that the autonomic nervous system is a family, a typical family in a bread and butter home. The sympathetic nervous system is the partner that acts now and thinks later. The parasympathetic is the one that puts bread on the table. And the enteric nervous system can be thought of as grandparents or something that is invested in the home and the family but still is very separate and unattached emotionally. And there is the hypothalamus which is like the mental health expert, and the purpose of all these components, this system is to keep things business as usual, which is to keep homeostasis going for you, and you in this case are the children. And in the context of suffering, what function does homeostasis play if to keep things business as usual is to keep the children suffering, that is you? Because the suffering is the status quo. So in order to change the status quo the entire system needs to be disrupted and changed. The parents need to change, the grandparents, and the mental health system in order for the children, that is YOU to change and no longer go through the suffering.
With all this in mind, what purpose does it serve to be an over-protective parent, the protecting which often becomes a form of abuse especially if the primary goal of parenting is to propel, to wire the child towards independence. That is to allow the child a chance to suffer or not. So, seeing all this what must be done in order for suffering to end? Should different drugs be requested of the mental health system? Or, must the entire mental health system be shut down? Or what if the parents are replaced by the grand-parents would that make any difference in ending the suffering? How does one get the parents to stop going to see the psychiatrist? What must the children do aside from begging to get the parents to stop taking drugs? And then there’s the 7 billion other parents and children all at the mercy, yet voluntary participants of a world that pushes suffering and what happens to the person that no longer wants to suffer? Is this Jesus, is this Muhammad, is this Jiddu Krishnamurti and is this Buddha? The ones that see life as it is and then chooses to live?
There is an entire world, a system that is built and dependent on the suffering of people and animals. Suffering is the dependence on pain and pleasure which is like God and money. They are the same thing masked in different clothes. And looking deeper we see that it’s just a bunch of chemicals and things that depend on the chemicals, and all these things want job security in the drug industry and the industries of pain and pleasure. So then, how does one find a life that is free from suffering?
There’s a story of Buddha getting insulted and Buddha replies to the rude man and says something like “if you give me a gift but I do not receive it, who then does the gift belong to?” Essentially, I’m rubber and you’re glue right? Is there any truth in being indifferent to insults? Does turning ones eye away, ones attention away from the window prevent the intruder from stepping in?